How do I cease all the time wanting extra?
This query has been spinning round my head rather a lot currently. On the one hand, wanting extra has led to success: a first-class diploma, the chance to stay overseas, a current promotion (*pats self on again*). However on the opposite, it additionally means I’ve all the time obtained an inventory of issues I would like. A few of them are needed—eager to be extra concerned with consumer communications at work is smart as a result of I’ll need to step out of my consolation zone—and a few of them should not. Heaven is aware of I don’t want one other face masks or stripy high.
I suppose by ‘extra’, I imply materials issues. Whereas I’m totally invested in determining a solution to mix minimalism and low waste, I’m additionally prone to the lure of one thing shiny and new. That is regardless of me repeatedly writing lists of issues I’m grateful for—materials objects nearly by no means function. I’ve seen patterns now I’ve made gratitude lists a behavior: I notice good conversations, time spent with family members, doing issues to deal with myself, getting organised, doing nicely at work, laughing, consuming a scrumptious meal, and any encounters with cute canines on the road. However the drive to purchase extra extra extra remains to be there.
I feel a part of it stems from rising up and not using a lot. My mother and father by no means made my brother and I really feel like we went with out, however now I’m older I’ve a greater understanding of the whole lot they did for us, from working additional hours to pay for after-school actions to lacking out on issues they needed so we have been taken care of. The most important quantity of gratitude I’ve is all the time for them. Even so, the joys of now having the ability to purchase issues if I want them (inside cause) nonetheless hasn’t gone away.
After which there’s the vanity subject. Low confidence is one thing I’ve handled for my total life, though it’s improved over the previous couple of years (and can proceed to, love you Coach Kirk!). Advertising and marketing has clearly had extra of an impact on me than I’d prefer to admit, as a result of the concept that if I simply purchase this one merchandise I’ll magically be happier has burrowed its approach into my mind.
So how do I cease all the time wanting extra? I don’t have a clear-cut reply. Promoting is in every single place and I don’t assume anybody is totally immune from it. I’m going to maintain writing my gratitude lists and make a degree of looking for the whole lot on it out, as a result of finally they’re the issues that carry me probably the most happiness. And I’ll hold striving to purchase much less, as a result of I’m fortunate to already personal the issues I’ve. Past that, I’m unsure there’s one answer. I’m actually to listen to your ideas on this, so let me know what works for you (or in case you really feel the identical approach).
