I bear in mind speaking to a pal after church a few years in the past. At that time, I had been on my texlax journey for two years and was happy with the progress it had made. I had washed my hair on Saturday and meant to place it into field braids after church so I may put on my wig to work come Monday morning. I wore it in a cute (in my view) poofy wanting bun and off to church I went.
Throughout our catch up, with a glance of real concern, my pal stated, “ Your hair is due for a contact up, you need to get it performed quickly as a result of your hair doesn’t look neat”. I excitedly defined to her that my hair was texlaxed and that I had had a contact up simply two weeks prior. I attempted to inform just a few issues about wholesome hair care.
Lets simply say she didn’t get it. So far as she was involved my hair simply wasn’t tidy and she or he reiterated that I wanted one other contact up as a result of the final one clearly didn’t work.
She wasn’t the primary or final particular person to make such feedback. As of late its feedback about my hair not wanting shiny sufficient or your hair is good however don’t you need to get it performed aka styled. Fortuitously for me I’ve by no means been one to be simply influenced by the views of others about my look so such feedback have by no means a had any detrimental impact on my psyche.
I had seen the wholesome hair care gentle at that time. I had re-learned rather a lot about what black hair is meant to be aesthetically each in its pure and relaxed states. And I used to be fantastic with it.
The priority I’ve and why I made a decision to put in writing this put up is as a result of the hair of so many black girls is being destroyed by the idea of neatness. While we now have this time, I want to write posts which I hope will problem us to achieve a greater perceive the character of our hair and to see the sweetness in it in whichever state we select to put on or not it’s it pure, texlaxed, relaxed or loc’ed.
Failure to take action has lead numerous girls to maintain everlasting hair loss and lots of extra are on that path.
Afro hair is textured.
Even relaxed hair retains a point of texture.
Once we get a recent relaxer, our hair would possibly look very smooth for some time however after just a few washes, the feel retained is normally obvious. This is the reason relaxed hair usually doesn’t mix effectively with Caucasian and Asian hair extensions and the usage of closures, frontals or flat irons on the relaxed hair is required to cover the telling distinction in texture. Relaxed hair remains to be black hair. It is not going to look transfer or behave like different hair sorts. And remenber even totally relaxed hair shouldn’t be relaxed past 80% as a result of past this level an excessive amount of harm (aka protein loss) would have occured and the hair would have misplaced its elasticity. This is only one instance in why the idea of wholesome relaxed hair is feasible, ie wholesome by relaxed hair requirements, however thats a battle for an additional day.
This will likely not apply to over processed relaxed hair however even hair that’s over-processed can have some lovely new progress spring up inside just a few weeks.
Our hair is textured and the extra texture we eradicate, the extra harm is brought on to our hair.
The feel of our hair which is considered one of its defining traits, even in its relaxed state, is sadly perceived by many inside our personal communities as untidy, tough and in want of “fixing”. So we pull, stretch, gel, smoothen and trace of texture away and put the well being of our hair in danger each time we do that. Please don’t confuse this with merely making textured hair look tidy or each day grooming.
Moisturizing, sealing and utilizing a really comfortable brush will make our hair look neat however by no means give the extent of sleekness I’m referring to.
The issue is that this, what’s neat for afro textured hair (pure or relaxed) mustn’t and can’t be what’s neat by Caucasian or Asian hair aesthetics. Our hair should not be judged by these requirements.
Put it this manner, our hair is completely different and our neatness is completely different too. Our presentable shouldn’t be their presentable
Understanding this may increasingly simply assist just a few girls keep away from the surplus or each day use of edge management merchandise mixed with a really agency brush.
It could assist a girl with lower than one inch of recent progress put the relaxer down for just a few extra weeks. (this may increasingly not apply to pixie cuts however that could be a story for an additional day).
It could assist just a few girls keep away from having their in loopy tight buns and ponytails with a lot stress and gel that their afro hair which is massive and poofy in its true state turns into fully flattened.
There may be nothing flawed with such types when performed often and with a whole lot of warning.
Executed usually and incorrectly, the above acts usually results in traction alopecia and different kinds of hair loss which many women don’t totally bounce again from relying on its severity and the extent of injury sustained.
Earlier than we attempt to “neaten” our hair, allow us to simply pause to ask ourselves; is my hair really tough/untidy or is simply black hair being its textured self? Are we assessing the neatness by the right requirements? Or we nonetheless judging our magnificence via the flawed lens.
I hope this put up helps somebody studying take a look at the hair and grade its neatness in a brand new gentle
One other put up will likely be up in just a few days so see you quickly.
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